Modern Dilemmas: Looking for Mr Right.

I'm sorry, did I miss out on the belief that when you're in your 30s anyone will do? Have all the good ones really gone or are gay? Who wrote the book that says when you hit 30 abandon all your standards, heartfelt wishes and romantic expectations or you'll end up a lonely old lady?

OK, meeting someone may be a challenge, and panic can set in when we notice we're the only single person in the room, but that doesn't mean it's all over for you and that he doesn't exist. Many of us loathe being labelled "unlucky in love", having friends feeling sorry for us and trying to set us up on dates. Often we think we have to take whatever's out there or face being alone.

The worst thing you can do is give up.

Then the next wrong thing to do would be to try to hunt him down like prey, which will only make you look and feel desperate. There is a philosophy which subscribes to dating a few men at the same time, rather like playing the field. Again I think this hinders rather than helps you, because the name of the game to me is simple, having faith.

Clear your life of old baggage and old boyfriends and understand that you're not looking for a man to "fix" you, because you know and like yourself as you are.

Take time to explore what type of relationship you ideally want and what both of you will bring to the table.

Have faith in the fact that love can come to you at any age in your life. Love doesn't follow the rules we limit ourselves to; it isn't ageist and it takes no notice of fear. Have faith that there is not just one man out there for you, but many and one of them will find you. Finally, never ever settle for second best in any area of your life, especially love. Have high expectations of life because then you will be open to all the good and exciting opportunities available.

Alexandra Watson is a leading Happiness Coach, best-selling author and Co-Founder of National Happiness Day. www. Alexandra Watson. com.