where relaxingis a problem

For Mr Bland, relaxing at home is easier said than done. "When the children have their friends round it's like a kindergarten in here."

And for stressed-out Miss Harrison the demands are just as great if not more so. She says she is intent on staying put until the right property comes along.

She was offered a choice of four four-bedroom Incommunities homes in 2008 all of which she turned down, saying they were not big enough. She also refused a large private sector home.