It’s not all right, luv; it makes us uncomfortable

FATHER Neil McNicholas’s column (Yorkshire Post, September 14) only tells of his annoyance with cold callers.

However there are others who persist in being over-familiar with the use of one’s Christian name, sometimes even an abbreviation of that.

I wonder how many of us call doctors and nurses by their first name, not easy if they do not wear a visible badge.

When my father-in-law was admitted to Scarborough Hospital it upset me to hear him called “Pop”.

Years later, when my husband had to go to the same hospital, I was determined that this would not happen to him.

When he was admitted we told them of our preference, even putting it in writing.

On the second day, my husband – not a complaining man – reminded a member of staff who called him “Pop” that he did not like it. The male nurse he spoke to said abruptly: “Well what shall we call you then?”

There seems to be a common practice among most NHS staff not to use surnames (with whatever prefix is applicable).

It suggests familiarity, not professionalism.

I expect those in authority to extend some courtesy to those in their care. I do not call my dentist, doctor, solicitor, even my coal man by their Baptismal names and expect the same respect from them.

I realise that etiquette seems to be extinct but a little courtesy goes a long way.

Also endearments from anyone, for example “luv” or “dear” and certainly “darlin’”, should be kept for nearest and dearest.

They do not make most of us feel comfortable at all.